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Week 18: putting your heart into it

Although I’ve gotten a lot done, this past week has felt very difficult.sun-622740_640

Yesterday was the anniversary of my father’s death, and even though he died a long time ago, for some reason this week has been emotional for me.

I think it’s the collision of a lot of things I alluded to last week: just seeing how much negativity I’ve manifested and attracted in this 53 year life of mine, and realizing that it’s going to be more of a process of tearing down an old building and rebuilding it than just chipping off a little cement. At times I feel as if I need to get an earth mover.

But as always, Haanel has an answer for this situation:

In order to grow we must obtain what is essential for our growth, but as we are at all times a complete thought entity, this completeness makes it possible for us to receive only as we give; growth is therefore conditioned on reciprocal action and we find that on the mental plane like attracts like …

.. Affluence within is found to be the secret of attraction for affluence without … it if for this reason that he who has his heart in his work is certain to meet with unbounded success. He will give and continually give; and the more he gives, the more he will receive.

I found this very encouraging, because I realized that I haven’t had my heart in my work for a while, and of course that sort of thing always comes back to bite us, as like attracts like. But I can change things simply by putting my heart into what I choose to do and letting like attract like. I don’t have to force things to happen, good or bad; they just do.

Week 16: converting difficulties into blessings

I have been in the New Orleans area this past week, and I have learned SO much. The one thing which amazed me the most is how many people I met who were saying things like, “I decided I need to follow my own inner voice.” Wow!!


This week, we’ve been asked to look for kindness, both in ourselves and in those around us.

The preface to Part 16 of the Master Keys says:

… through an understanding and conscious operation of spiritual laws, we can convert every seeming difficulty into a blessing.

Isn’t that what kindness is all about?

Here is what I mean. If you pay for something you bought, that’s not particularly kind in and of itself. That is simply a transaction. But if you buy it to help someone else, or pay for someone who comes up short at the register, then it becomes a kindness. That person you helped had a seeming difficulty, which you turned into a blessing.


Haanel again hammers at the idea that thought is the cause. The only cause. If we want something, anything else, these things are simply effects, and we need to develop the appropriate thought patterns to produce that effect. Our time is best spent in developing those thought patterns (aka: the silence/the sit), because once you think about something in a certain way, the outward world MUST change to correspond to that.


So: kindness. Converting difficulties to blessings. Thought being the cause. How do these things fit together?

Let me give you an example: you go into your bathroom, and there’s a towel on the floor. You can have several thoughts about this, but here’s two that everyone can relate to —

  • oh, look, the towel’s on the floor. Let me pick it up.
  • oh, look, the towel’s on the floor. I’ll get it later.

Which thought leads to the effect of a clean bathroom?

Well, you might think, “Who cares if a towel is on the floor?” That has an effect too, and if you’re asking that, I bet there is more than a towel on your bathroom floor. Am I right? 😉

If you live with others, you might have angry thoughts and blame them for that towel being there. That leads to other effects. Negative thoughts charged with angry feelings … I hope you see where I’m going with this. You wonder why you feel so bad all the time.

Or you can be kind and pick up the towel, giving yourself a feeling of accomplishment. Kind to the others in your home. Kind to yourself.

It’s the same seeming difficulty: a towel lying on the floor. Totally different thoughts. Completely different effects.


Haanel talks more about constructive and destructive thoughts, and how the thoughts themselves are not particularly good or bad. What matters are the thoughts we entertain, dwell on, and manifest in our lives. This is why the Mental Diet is so important, and why we need to be kind to ourselves while using it. It’s too easy to get into this vicious circle of I had this negative thought and therefore I’m bad (another negative thought), and so on.

I love love love this quote from Part 15:

We do not have to laboriously shovel the darkness out; all that is necessary is to turn on the light.

light-bulbs-1125016_640Focus on what you want, your ideal, and on what you want to become, and voila! the light is on. It was dark, which seemed like a difficulty, but you turned it into a blessing, not only for yourself but also for those around you.

 

Week 15: failure and opportunity

Failure is not necessarily a bad thing. In it lie the seeds of opportunity, if you’re willing to look for it.

Let me explain. For the first time since starting this course in September 2014, I have failed to complete a weekly service.

(those of you taking the course know how ‘gasp’ worthy that is)

My weekly was to make a full-length Victorian dress for the event I’m going to next weekend. Not just one dress, but a reversible dress, with different colors and styles on each side. And my machine was broken, so I was going to do it by hand. While in the middle of a holiday week, while watching a marathon of Harry Potter movies with my daughter and her boyfriend coming over every day.

Okay, so I put myself in a situation where I was probably going to fail. This is straight out of my old blueprint, and looking back, it seems silly. At the time, it didn’t seem that way. But in the back of my head, I thought, “can I really do this?” so even then I knew.

Things were going pretty well, actually. The skirt was sewn, the bodice and sleeves were cut out, and fit great. But then a sleeve got put in inside out, and the neckline was wrong, and on and on and on. Finally, realizing I couldn’t do the buttonholes in time, I went to a local sewing shop on Sunday and bought me a new machine.

(They were technically closed, but they were renovating and when I said I needed a machine today and if they were closed did they know anyone who sold them, they said come on in. Good business, there.)

But the neck was giving me fits and it was 11:30 pm and I normally go to bed at 10 and I hadn’t gotten to the buttonholes yet and the skirt was still to be put on and that damn sleeve still wasn’t right and I had to admit I had failed.


Haanel tells a story about failure, right at the start of part 15, and when I read it, I found it inspirational.

Here’s how it goes: An experiment was done at the Rockefeller Institute by a Dr. Jacques Loch (MD/PhD) where potted roses infested with aphids (which have no wings) were put into a room near a closed window and allowed to dry out.

Now, these aphids were in trouble. They thought they had chosen a great place to live, but it had turned disastrous. They had no food, no water, and things looked pretty dim. They had failed spectacularly. What could they do? They were just bugs, crawling around on a dying rose bush. It seemed as if they were doomed.

So what did they do? Did they just lay down and die? No.

The only method by which they could save themselves from starvation was to grow temporary wings and fly, which they did.

(emphasis mine)

They took a failure and turned it into an amazing opportunity for freedom. They found resources and abilities within themselves they never had before.

When I first read this, I thought: if an aphid can do this, so can I. I am more than an aphid! So I began a little experiment of my own.

(no, I’m not trying to grow wings)

(according to Wikipedia, it’s actually their children who are born – very quickly, I’d presume – with wings)

(I’ll tell you about my experiment later. This post is getting too long as it is, and I have a lot more to say.)


So how does failure turn into opportunity? If you use it to learn something.

It didn’t hit me until yesterday that I had failed, and what that meant. I felt as if I let myself down, and I did cry a bit about that. But then I realized that I had been half-assing it for a while now. Reading Og once a day instead of three times. Not listening to my recording at all – it needs to be re-recorded and I’ve been putting it off. ‘Sort of’ finishing weekly tasks ‘well enough’. Not keeping my promises to my customers. No wonder subby figured I was going back to the old blueprint. I was.

Before I began this class, I had failed in every single area of my life. Every one.

(don’t even bother telling me ‘no, look at all the good stuff you did,’ because I have them on stacks of cards and almost every one is bittersweet, a record of great starts, even great accomplishments, ending in massive failure – and I guarantee you do not know the details)

So why in the world would I want to go back to that?

They say when you’re stressed, you seek out the familiar, and I guess that’s what I was doing.


A few months ago, someone who has known me since 1980 told me I was neutral evil.

(we were sort of having an argument at the time)

For those of you who have never played Dungeons and Dragons (D&D), here’s a fair description of the concept of alignment, and more specifically about the neutral evil alignment, although this other person and I go with the altruistic/selfish view of good/evil rather than the newer version, which is too simplistic to translate to reality.

(If you need more examples, here’s a whole slew of alignment charts applied to fictional characters. Some charts are more accurate than others.)

Now, at first him saying I was neutral evil hurt my feelings. I always thought of myself as neutral good, or at least that’s what I always wanted to be.

But then I thought about it a while, looked at my life, at who I really am, and decided that perhaps this is why the course has been so difficult for me: I am trying to change my alignment.

In D&D, changing alignment is a serious matter for a player-character: you change not only how you are as a person, you change everything, down to your gods. Changing alignment costs you, in a big way.

This explains some things. It’s making me re-evaluate my DMP, and why I do what I do, why I want what I want. This … failure, if you will (if not in me as a person but certainly in my relationships), is becoming an opportunity, because it opened my eyes to what I was pretending not to know.

I need to stop trying to change my life and change it.

(Sort of like Morpheus and Neo when they’re fighting.)

I’m scheduling this post. When it appears, I’ll be driving to New Orleans on Thursday, to go to Wizard World Comic Con and sell my book, and to go to a business conference. My dress will be done. How do I know? Because I have thought the matter through and starting at noon, for ten hours today (Tuesday) I will work on that dress. If it’s not done, then I will start at noon and work on it for ten hours Wednesday, or until it’s done.

I will make it happen.

(okay, now I really am getting silly here, channeling Palpatine, but it’s going to happen, and my week will be awesome)

So if you have failed, are failing, no matter how badly, it doesn’t matter. You can turn that failure into a chance to become someone that you weren’t before.

Look for the opportunity.

Find the resources and abilities in yourself that you didn’t know you had.

Make it happen.

See you next week. 🙂

Week 13: Effects and causes

This week, Haanel talks more about causes and effects: more specifically, that each of the effects we see around us, from natural to man-made, have a particular cause. Once we find the cause, we can create the effect for ourselves whenever we want.

For example: people have observed birds flying, leaves floating, and so on, since the beginning of humanity, and for thousands of years people spent their lives trying to create the effect without understanding the cause. As far as I can tell, even the Wright brothers more or less stumbled upon the effect, and so we have airplanes. But once we learned the cause (aerodynamics) we could create the effect of flying whenever we wanted to!

I think it’s the same way with the other effects in our lives. We see how our lives are, and we spend our lives trying to create situations which we think are good, without really understanding the cause of either why we are here now or why someone who has what we want got that.

(many times, we don’t really even know what we want in the first place, but that’s another matter)

We may stumble upon it, and many often do. When we understand the cause, though, we’ll be able to create that effect whenever we like.

During the first part of the class (and some people are still struggling with the question) we asked: what do you want? That is the effect.

But what is the cause? That is what we need to figure out.

(This reminds me a bit of our battleship exercise.)

Haanel talks about belief, about the Universal Mind, about how our thoughts become the cause which creates literal effects in our existence. Not supernatural. Not mystical. Real effects from a real cause: your thoughts.

(If the thoughts you create inside your own head are not real, then what is?)

Anyone who’s tried to guide their thoughts (aka the 7 day mental diet) has learned how difficult it is at first. Just like anyone else who’s trying to create an effect, it takes some doing. Things (whether a positive mental attitude or a skyscraper) do not just jump into existence because you wish they would.

So now the task is to examine the effects we want then go back to see what the cause might be for this. Haanel gives us a clue:

The athlete may read books and lessons on physical training all his life, but unless he begins to give out strength by actual work he will never receive any strength; he will eventually get exactly what he gives; but he will have to give it first. It is exactly the same with us; we will get exactly what we give, but we shall have to give it first. It will then return to us many fold, and the giving is simply a mental process, because thoughts are causes and conditions are effects; therefore in giving thoughts of courage, inspiration, health or help of any kind we are setting causes in motion which will bring about their effect.

Or as Mark J likes to say: give more, get more.

This is more like a clue-bat: an athlete who just sat around reading books about training but never did any would be ridiculed!

But we say we want wealth yet are fearful, greedy, and stingy; say we want happiness but are mean to others, or think of unhappy things all day; say we want health but do and think things we know are unhealthy. And so we get what we think about.

You see, the law of attraction is no different from any other law. It works 100% of the time. You can’t get away from it any more than you can get away from the law of gravity. You reap what you sow.

Right now is a good time of year to think about these things, because while you may be sure of the effect you want, if you don’t understand the cause then you probably won’t get that effect.

Week 11: I hear that train a-comin’

The question I had to face this week was: if I’ve been doing all this manifesting stuff right for the past year or so, why am I still not getting everything I want? Haanel has the answer:

“… while every effect is the result of a cause, the effect in turn becomes a cause, which create other effects, which in turn create still other causes; so that when you put the law of attraction into operation you must remember that you are starting a train of causation for good or otherwise which may have endless possibilities.”

In other words, the things you are getting right now are things which you (or if you’re a baby, dog, or other creature without agency, someone else) started manifesting a LONG time ago, just as a train doesn’t just appear on the tracks but has to be created and moved to where you are, and you’re not getting a train going anywhere from a dead stop in a hurry. It usually takes at least a little time. And conversely, the things you’re manifesting now will also take some time to get going depending on what they are and whether you may have the brakes on. 🙂


I have had a problem with being addicted to scarcity. I grew up rich as a child then my parents lost everything and it took a long time for them to get back to a good place financially, and then my father died and we were poor again. Then it took a really long time to get my career going (making more than I could ever imagine), and then I had a nervous breakdown.

I feel as if my old blueprint is set up to say ‘If you become wealthy it only brings you pain, loss, stress, and illness.’

I’ve talked about this before, and yet this week here I was again with that old demon. I wanted to manifest success in my business and it has seemed as if all I get is resistance at every turn.563121_630170500357775_1390384717_n

Then this popped up in my Facebook feed. And it hit me like … like someone slapped me in the face.

I have marked myself down.

Even now, I feel emotional at writing it.

I do feel as if I’m not being treated with love and respect.

But I really have a dilemma, because this business is everything I have ever wanted. It’s smack in the middle of my DMP. It – theoretically – meets both my PPNs. It’s been a passion of mine for decades. It’s my ticket to the dream of my life. It’s one of the things I want to be remembered for.

Do I just walk away? Or do I sidestep the rock there on the beach and keep going?

Anyway, I don’t have to decide any major business things today. But what I did do is to sign up for a course about upping your game in your business, which just so happened to be in the same place and a few days after a major venue to sell my book at which I’ve been looking at going to for months.

So I’m getting the feeling that the universe is nudging me along. Maybe it’s not the business. Maybe it’s the people I put on the damn train.

I already made the decision to set up an environment where the ones who won’t behave will kick themselves out, and if they don’t, I’m fully prepared to kick them out of the train myself.

But I feel as if I need to change me as well. I need to get off that clearance rack, the kiddie track, stop discounting, stop pricing my products to feed into the scarcity mindset that the whole rest of the world has. That’s the opposite of why I started the business in the first place.

I keep thinking of this quote from Og Mandino, which I’ll just leave here:

I was not delivered into this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lioness and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny.

 

 

Week 10: digging deeper

I’ve been having a hard time this week for some reason. Things have been going very well, yet I haven’t been feeling it.

Earlier this week, I thought a lot about last week’s post, and what my ‘seed’ really was. Was it love? Or were there other things going on in there?

In any case, I began thinking about seeds and how our thoughts are like roots and how I needed to dig deeper if I wanted to be able to bear the fruit I want.

Haanel talks about roots, and how just like roots reach into the dead soil and fill it with life, the Universal Mind (or whatever name floats your boat) reaches into our subby and fills us with life. If you entertain destructive thoughts (aka thinking of what you don’t want), you cut yourself off from that life, and just like a plant cut off at the roots, eventually you die.

So why do people get so freaked out when asked to decide what they do want?

(I’m sort of asking myself this here as well)

This is what it reminds me of:

It’s like they would rather choose death than cake!

Do we believe we don’t deserve cake? Or more to the point, do we believe we deserve death instead?

Or have we been so brainwashed about how the world works that we don’t believe it when we’re told the truth?

What do you think?

Week 8: the world is filled with outrage

I was going to write about all the nonsense that’s been going on in the past week or two, about Paris and Mexico, Kenya and Baghdad, the poor Syrians and the frightful situation still going on in Japan (where I lived for a short while), but it seems as if even now, people are moving on to the latest outrage de jour.

Emmet Fox has something to say about all that in the 7 Day Mental Diet:

If I witness an accident or an act of injustice, instead of reacting with pity or indignation, I refuse to accept the appearance at its face value; I do anything I can to right matters, I give it right thought, and let it go at that …

For I only have one life: a limited number of years, of months, of weeks, of days, hours, minutes, seconds. How many do I have left?1505372433_f9fb36a779_m

I don’t know, which is the very point. Instead of using the finite time and energy I have on things I neither know much about or can do anything about, I must focus, just as a magnifying glass focuses the rays of the sun, on things I am good at, I can physically do, I enjoy doing, I want to do, and what fulfills my needs: the things I was born to do, that only I can do in order to make this world better.

That may or may not involve the outrage de jour; it’s likely not to. The mob always goes for the quick and easy path.

Today, I went on a walk. It was cold and clear, the autumn leaves were brilliant. We have an exercise this week in the Master Keys to go backwards in time from a physical object (a battleship) to its sources. I did that for a whole week last year, so I decided to tackle my most impressive of objects: the space habitat I will design the landscaping for. I looked up into the blue morning sky, and imagined it. How did it get there? What happens to get it up there?

It was the most amazing experience. When I came back from the growth, the plantings, the development of the soil, the forming of the areas to hold the soil in, the building of the station itself, the technologies needed to create the parts (3D printing, I think, is the way), gathering the raw materials, building a place for these constructions to happen and the people doing them to live, the backers and engineers to send these things up, rallying and finding these people, the idea, the dream.

Me, walking along a suburban street in a housing tract in central Oklahoma.Sun_through_Conifer_Leaves

I felt for the first time, today, that this really could happen. I see it. Not every little detail, but I know when it will happen. I know where I will be living, say, 20-30 years from now: there on that space habitat, when those fruit trees are grown enough so I can look up and see the sun (or whatever we set up to pass for the sun) shining down at me through their branches.

I know that I am called to make this happen. It is what I was born to do. This is the way I will fulfill my PPN of Legacy: I will matter, and pass on something which inspires people for generations to come.

You can too.

Why spend your time worrying about the outrage de jour when you can change the world?

 

 

Photo credits: Dave Gough via Flickr, Ryan Hodnett via Wikipedia

Week 7: a little bit of this, a little bit of that

All sorts of stuff has been happening for me this week! It’s been difficult to narrow it down to one topic, so I hope you don’t mind a bit of a list.men-working-978394_640

As Mark J likes to say: you want a friend, get a dog. Confronting people on their bullshit is hard for me; my old blueprint is all about people liking me and avoiding conflict at all costs.

Well, I came across someone who is both manifesting some intensely interesting things and turning away from what they insist that they really want, simply out of fear, and I called them out on it.

I don’t think they’re real happy with me, but you know what? I no longer care (for more than about 20 minutes to cry about the fact that they’re upset with me, anyway) what others think of me. What this person is doing leads to the dark side.

The things they’re manifesting (to me, anyway, but of course this is just my opinion) seem to be the visualizations of others rather than anything they said that they want.

That is the big danger of not having control of your mind: you see examples of people getting their dreams (or nightmares) in living color, and your subby, for lack of any real vision on your part, manifests that instead.

To me, this is just more cement!!

I almost fell into that trap last year, and it took me a while to see that no, I don’t NEED or HAVE to want what others — even others I respect, honor, and admire — want.

It’s okay to want what I want. I am worth something.

What people don’t seem to realize is that, contrary to popular belief, you’re ALWAYS manifesting things. Every waking minute. So you better have YOUR dreams front and center, in detail, or you’ll get swept away in everyone else’s visions that produce emotion in you.

Subby is a simple little thing, who just wants to give you more of what makes you have strong emotion, whether “good” or “bad” emotion (subby can’t tell the difference).

So you have to VISUALIZE what YOU want, with EMOTION.

Or as Mark loves to say, ENTHUSIASM!

I was sitting this morning reading my DMP and the truth of this finally hit me: when you get your two most important needs met (your PPNs) then the rest come along.

I really can have everything a person could possibly want. Not only True Health and Legacy, but Helping Others, Recognition for Creative Expression, Liberty, Autonomy, and Spiritual Growth.

That feels really good.

In other news: my book The Jacq of Spades is available to buy! Another successful development from my DMP. 🙂

Week 1 – your future is under your control

Say WHAT?

Yep, after one year of doing this, I’ll have to say that your future is firmly under your control.

How do you figure that, you might ask?

Well, Haanel says in the Master Keys that the world without is a reflection of the world within, just as what you see in the mirror is just a reflection of the reality of your appearance. Your inside is a cause; your world is an effect.

(Please don’t even start ranting about evil in the world and how you didn’t cause it. I know way more about that than I care to, believe me. If you didn’t cause it, then you didn’t cause it. Let it go. Other people have inner lives too: it’s not all about you.)

So the concept is really quite easy: change what’s going on inside you and you will automatically change what you see outside you, just as if you brush your hair differently or wear a different shirt, your reflection in the mirror changes as well.

It happens in your outlook right away. What do you see when you get in your car? A bunch of bad drivers, or a bunch of beautiful cars? A glorious sunny day or a horribly hot one? The beauty of snow or every crash on the way home? It’s all in your mind which you see, which is why I like that 7 day mental diet so much.

The hard part is actually changing that inside of yours. It’s hard to control your body, as people doing this for the first time are finding out. It’s really hard to control your thoughts. It’s even harder to change that stinking old blueprint, especially if you’re trying to do it on your own without any help.

Thus, this course. 🙂

But that’s what people rant and throw fits about when you come out and SAY that their future is under their control. Because not only do people tend to not believe it, but if they DID believe it, then, you know, they’d actually have to change what’s going on inside them. Which seems impossible.

If you don’t believe you can change, you won’t do what you need to in order to do it, or you’ll sabotage yourself when you do try to do it, or you refuse to do the work, or you whine about how it’s so hard.

But if you’re willing to be open to changing, it’s very possible. I know: I’ve been there. 🙂

 

Master Key Experience Course Launch Starts in 5 Days!

The 2015 Master Key Experience launch is starting September 10th! If you know anything about me or my family at all, you know how much our lives have changed over the past year since I participated in this program. This year:ocean

  • I got serious about publishing my novel, which comes out in December
  • I took my dream vacation in Hawaii
  • I made significant breakthroughs in my weight, my health condition, and my business

But it wasn’t just me who benefited. This year:

  • My husband began to change his life too
  • After years of battle, suddenly everyone is pitching in to do housework!
  • One of my sons began to open up to me, and our relationship has improved dramatically. I think this means more to me than anything else.

I am so grateful for this program, and believe so much that everyone should take it, that I participated in the “Pay It Forward” scholarship program. All you have to do is apply and pay a $1 USD (yes, ONE dollar) to join. The rest of this $2000 course is paid for by last year’s members, who believe as I do that this is worth it.

But this course — as you can imagine — fills up fast. You can get early notification and notice of any updates by signing up on the list below.