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Week 11: I hear that train a-comin’

The question I had to face this week was: if I’ve been doing all this manifesting stuff right for the past year or so, why am I still not getting everything I want? Haanel has the answer:

“… while every effect is the result of a cause, the effect in turn becomes a cause, which create other effects, which in turn create still other causes; so that when you put the law of attraction into operation you must remember that you are starting a train of causation for good or otherwise which may have endless possibilities.”

In other words, the things you are getting right now are things which you (or if you’re a baby, dog, or other creature without agency, someone else) started manifesting a LONG time ago, just as a train doesn’t just appear on the tracks but has to be created and moved to where you are, and you’re not getting a train going anywhere from a dead stop in a hurry. It usually takes at least a little time. And conversely, the things you’re manifesting now will also take some time to get going depending on what they are and whether you may have the brakes on. πŸ™‚


I have had a problem with being addicted to scarcity. I grew up rich as a child then my parents lost everything and it took a long time for them to get back to a good place financially, and then my father died and we were poor again. Then it took a really long time to get my career going (making more than I could ever imagine), and then I had a nervous breakdown.

I feel as if my old blueprint is set up to say ‘If you become wealthy it only brings you pain, loss, stress, and illness.’

I’ve talked about this before, and yet this week here I was again with that old demon. I wanted to manifest success in my business and it has seemed as if all I get is resistance at every turn.563121_630170500357775_1390384717_n

Then this popped up in my Facebook feed. And it hit me like … like someone slapped me in the face.

I have marked myself down.

Even now, I feel emotional at writing it.

I do feel as if I’m not being treated with love and respect.

But I really have a dilemma, because this business is everything I have ever wanted. It’s smack in the middle of my DMP. It – theoretically – meets both my PPNs. It’s been a passion of mine for decades. It’s my ticket to the dream of my life. It’s one of the things I want to be remembered for.

Do I just walk away? Or do I sidestep the rock there on the beach and keep going?

Anyway, I don’t have to decide any major business things today. But what I did do is to sign up for a course about upping your game in your business, which just so happened to be in the same place and a few days after a major venue to sell my book at which I’ve been looking at going to for months.

So I’m getting the feeling that the universe is nudging me along. Maybe it’s not the business. Maybe it’s the people I put on the damn train.

I already made the decision to set up an environment where the ones who won’t behave will kick themselves out, and if they don’t, I’m fully prepared to kick them out of the train myself.

But I feel as if I need to change me as well. I need to get off that clearance rack, the kiddie track, stop discounting, stop pricing my products to feed into the scarcity mindset that the whole rest of the world has. That’s the opposite of why I started the business in the first place.

I keep thinking of this quote from Og Mandino, which I’ll just leave here:

I was not delivered into this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lioness and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny.

 

 

Week 10: digging deeper

I’ve been having a hard time this week for some reason. Things have been going very well, yet I haven’t been feeling it.

Earlier this week, I thought a lot about last week’s post, and what my ‘seed’ really was. Was it love? Or were there other things going on in there?

In any case, I began thinking about seeds and how our thoughts are like roots and how I needed to dig deeper if I wanted to be able to bear the fruit I want.

Haanel talks about roots, and how just like roots reach into the dead soil and fill it with life, the Universal Mind (or whatever name floats your boat) reaches into our subby and fills us with life. If you entertain destructive thoughts (aka thinking of what you don’t want), you cut yourself off from that life, and just like a plant cut off at the roots, eventually you die.

So why do people get so freaked out when asked to decide what they do want?

(I’m sort of asking myself this here as well)

This is what it reminds me of:

It’s like they would rather choose death than cake!

Do we believe we don’t deserve cake? Or more to the point, do we believe we deserve death instead?

Or have we been so brainwashed about how the world works that we don’t believe it when we’re told the truth?

What do you think?

Week 8: the world is filled with outrage

I was going to write about all the nonsense that’s been going on in the past week or two, about Paris and Mexico, Kenya and Baghdad, the poor Syrians and the frightful situation still going on in Japan (where I lived for a short while), but it seems as if even now, people are moving on to the latest outrage de jour.

Emmet Fox has something to say about all that in the 7 Day Mental Diet:

If I witness an accident or an act of injustice, instead of reacting with pity or indignation, I refuse to accept the appearance at its face value; I do anything I can to right matters, I give it right thought, and let it go at that …

For I only have one life: a limited number of years, of months, of weeks, of days, hours, minutes, seconds. How many do I have left?1505372433_f9fb36a779_m

I don’t know, which is the very point. Instead of using the finite time and energy I have on things I neither know much about or can do anything about, I must focus, just as a magnifying glass focuses the rays of the sun, on things I am good at, I can physically do, I enjoy doing, I want to do, and what fulfills my needs: the things I was born to do, that only I can do in order to make this world better.

That may or may not involve the outrage de jour; it’s likely not to. The mob always goes for the quick and easy path.

Today, I went on a walk. It was cold and clear, the autumn leaves were brilliant. We have an exercise this week in the Master Keys to go backwards in time from a physical object (a battleship) to its sources. I did that for a whole week last year, so I decided to tackle my most impressive of objects: the space habitat I will design the landscaping for. I looked up into the blue morning sky, and imagined it. How did it get there? What happens to get it up there?

It was the most amazing experience. When I came back from the growth, the plantings, the development of the soil, the forming of the areas to hold the soil in, the building of the station itself, the technologies needed to create the parts (3D printing, I think, is the way), gathering the raw materials, building a place for these constructions to happen and the people doing them to live, the backers and engineers to send these things up, rallying and finding these people, the idea, the dream.

Me, walking along a suburban street in a housing tract in central Oklahoma.Sun_through_Conifer_Leaves

I felt for the first time, today, that this really could happen. I see it. Not every little detail, but I know when it will happen. I know where I will be living, say, 20-30 years from now: there on that space habitat, when those fruit trees are grown enough so I can look up and see the sun (or whatever we set up to pass for the sun) shining down at me through their branches.

I know that I am called to make this happen. It is what I was born to do. This is the way I will fulfill my PPN of Legacy: I will matter, and pass on something which inspires people for generations to come.

You can too.

Why spend your time worrying about the outrage de jour when you can change the world?

 

 

Photo credits: Dave Gough via Flickr,Β Ryan Hodnett via Wikipedia

Week 7: a little bit of this, a little bit of that

All sorts of stuff has been happening for me this week! It’s been difficult to narrow it down to one topic, so I hope you don’t mind a bit of a list.men-working-978394_640

As Mark J likes to say: you want a friend, get a dog. Confronting people on their bullshit is hard for me; my old blueprint is all about people liking me and avoiding conflict at all costs.

Well, I came across someone who is both manifesting some intensely interesting things and turning away from what they insist that they really want, simply out of fear, and I called them out on it.

I don’t think they’re real happy with me, but you know what? I no longer care (for more than about 20 minutes to cry about the fact that they’re upset with me, anyway) what others think of me. What this person is doing leads to the dark side.

The things they’re manifesting (to me, anyway, but of course this is just my opinion) seem to be the visualizations of others rather than anything they said that they want.

That is the big danger of not having control of your mind: you see examples of people getting their dreams (or nightmares) in living color, and your subby, for lack of any real vision on your part, manifests that instead.

To me, this is just more cement!!

I almost fell into that trap last year, and it took me a while to see that no, I don’t NEED or HAVE to want what others — even others I respect, honor, and admire — want.

It’s okay to want what I want. I am worth something.

What people don’t seem to realize is that, contrary to popular belief, you’re ALWAYS manifesting things. Every waking minute. So you better have YOUR dreams front and center, in detail, or you’ll get swept away in everyone else’s visions that produce emotion in you.

Subby is a simple little thing, who just wants to give you more of what makes you have strong emotion, whether “good” or “bad” emotion (subby can’t tell the difference).

So you have to VISUALIZE what YOU want, with EMOTION.

Or as Mark loves to say, ENTHUSIASM!

I was sitting this morning reading my DMP and the truth of this finally hit me: when you get your two most important needs met (your PPNs) then the rest come along.

I really can have everything a person could possibly want. Not only True Health and Legacy, but Helping Others, Recognition for Creative Expression, Liberty, Autonomy, and Spiritual Growth.

That feels really good.

In other news: my book The Jacq of Spades is available to buy! Another successful development from my DMP. πŸ™‚

Week 3: refusing the call

Being a Master Key Experience guide gives me a unique perspective on the course. Not only am I doing the course again with the members (and getting new insights on my own) but I’m watching fifteen people make – or not make – their own Hero journeys.

Every hero refuses the call at first. That refusal can be anything:

  • procrastination to the point where they miss the application deadline (about 400 people did that),
  • confusion to the point where they don’t do any of the work and are eventually asked to leave,
  • defensiveness: refusal to get help when they clearly need it or arguing when they do get some,
  • manifesting obstacles,
  • all the way to downright saying “I’m out”.

These are people who are simply being asked to answer the question: what do you want?

As far as I know no one has been actually asked to leave yet in the over 600 people enrolled, but I’m sure there will be some fireworks to come. πŸ™‚

What is refusing the call about? Fear.

It’s interesting that Haanel spends most of part 3 talking about fear, since so much of it is coming out right about now. The solution for it is expressed best in the week 3 study questions:

How may fear be completely eliminated?

By an understanding and recognition of the true source of all power.

I feel like these first few weeks are the most difficult of the course … like weeks 2-6. In week 1, you’re all pumped up, ready for anything. Then it sort of stops being so exciting and fun and begins to feel like work. Lots of stuff to do but maybe not so much happening yet. I remember those days very well.

But then once you accept the call, step across into the unknown, you begin to ‘get it’ – the light bulb turns on, you start seeing what this is really all about and it becomes much easier.

Some people are beginning to get it even now: the realization that YOU can change your life, that YOU have power, not because “you’re being your own god” as some ignorant person put on Facebook, but because God/The Universe/whatever is IN YOU, is directly connected to your subconscious mind, and you have the ability to communicate directly to that Power.

Every religious figure and most philosophers have said this over the past 6000 years, but people still want to cling to the old blueprint that tells them some authority figure or organization or society needs to tell them what to do and think in order to be okay instead of relying on the power within them like their own religious books tell them to do. It would be funny if it weren’t so sad.

But I’m seeing some amazing breakthroughs as people do the work and really wrestle with these questions on their own. It’s truly exciting to see what can happen when you stop refusing the call.

Are you ready to receive?

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Of course I’m ready to receive! People will say. I want lots of love, lots of money, time with my kids, to travel the world, a new car … I want it all! I’m so ready to receive that you can’t imagine it!

But are you sure?

I’ve been reading Wallace D. Wattles’ book The Science of Getting Rich during the past couple of weeks, and this quote leaped out at me:

Never look at the visible supply; look always at the limitless riches in Formless Substance, and KNOW that they are coming to you as fast as you can receive and use them.

(emphasis mine)

There are a lot of people out there talking about the Law of Attraction, but I honestly think that this point right here is what they are missing. It’s why they aren’t getting what they want, even though they claim that it’s what they really truly do want.

How do I know this? Because I have been a huge offender in this area.

What do I mean exactly?

Okay, let’s say you want people to value what you do for them. You’ve done all these affirmations around that. But then when someone thanks you, or says you did a great job, you say “oh, it was nothing,” and point out all the other people who should really get the praise. When you’re going to get recognized for what you do, you suddenly get sick, or injured, or lost on the way.

Remember, we manifest our reality. Were you really ready to receive what you claimed you wanted?

Maybe that’s not a good example for you. Maybe what you want is money. You want to be a millionaire! You want the cars, the freedom to travel, the big home. You’ve done all these affirmations around that. But when it comes time to price your products, you constantly undervalue them, or if you do price them well, you create sales so often that your customers just wait for the next sale to buy. Or somehow you just can’t find time to do what you need to do in order to move your business forward. Or maybe you’re doing okay at work, but your car’s always breaking down, or someone always needs money from you, or you just can’t resist buying that new toy. Or when someone offers you an opportunity, you say “oh, I’m not qualified enough for that,” or “I don’t know if I could do that,” or maybe you get sick, or injured, or lost on the way.

Remember, we manifest our reality. Were you really ready to receive what you claimed you wanted?

You see, we can only receive when we’re ready to: when we have the structure in place to receive, when we are ready in our hearts to receive, when we are capable of receiving.

The Universe is always giving. There’s an infinite supply. But if you can’t receive, the gifts will go to someone who can.

So how can you become ready to receive?

I think you know what I’m going to say. πŸ™‚

What are you thinking? What are you saying? What are you doing?

If your mind is not focused on what you want then it’s focused on what you don’t want. You can’t have it both ways.

But I can’t control what I think! you might say. Yes, you can. It’s difficult, because what you’re thinking is due to a blueprint that has been engraved on you since you were born. But you can change it. You are a grown human being. If you’re able to read this, you can do it.

That’s what the Master Key experience is all about, training you how to get hold of yourself so you can do that.

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Some people are quicker at this than others. I’m sort of a slow-poke, I suppose, in that I’m just now beginning to see how my refusal and inability to receive has caused me all sorts of problems, both in relationships and finances. But as they say, seeing it is the first step in dealing with it.

Because without being ready and able to receive, all the asking in the world is going to get you nowhere.

You get what you ask for

I have so much to write about I don’t even know where to start. But I feel as if I have had some insights over the past week or two that I’d like to share with you.

Since I’ve taken this course, more and more I’ve been faced with evidence that what happens to us isn’t just random fate, but a direct result of what we’ve asked for.

We manifest ALL the time, both good and bad. We can’t help it. We’re manifested in the image (the IMAGE!) of the Infinite, and we have the same ability to create our reality.

Now I know a lot of people have problems with that. I would have had a huge problem with that a year or two ago, being a survivor of a whole lot of bad stuff that you don’t really even want to know about.

Putting aside the inevitable questions about things which happen to children and other beings who have no agency (which I feel is just avoiding the real point), if you look back at your life, you can often see what I’m talking about.

For example: I was in Hawaii (known for its bugs) for three weeks. I think I got one or two bug bites. I come home to Oklahoma (known for its bugs), and for over a week, I didn’t get a single bug bite. I sell this bug lotion and I use it regularly, and I like it.

So I was reading this discussion on Facebook by some friends of mine who were talking about how bad the bugs were, and (here comes the ego!) I was feeling upset that none of them bought any of my bug stuff, so I said, “I use my bug lotion and haven’t gotten any bug bites.” Which was a lie, and when I wrote it, I thought of my two bug bites quite clearly.

Guess what happened the next time I went outside. Tons of horrible bug bites!

I was talking with Mark J over in Kauai one day and he thought I needed to work on visualizing. I told him, that’s not my problem. My problem is that I visualize too well!

Over the 50 some years of crap I’ve had to deal with, I learned to visualize negativity SO well that it’s really no wonder that I’ve had the struggles I’ve had.

But then he said, well then you need to work on your mental diet.

I totally agree with that, because it’s a daily battle, even after the 8 or 9 months I’ve been working on this. It takes persistence. It takes courage.

But it gets easier as time goes on. It really does.

My point is that because you DO get what you ask for (what you visualize, which is the main way you tell your subby what you want) you MUST get control of your mind!

Right now, what are you thinking? What are you visualizing? Is it positive and enthusiastic, full of what you want for your life? Or is it hateful and angry, full of anxiety and fear, guilt and shame, focused on things you don’t want?

You can either control your mind (and learn to get what you do want), or your out of control thoughts will continue to manifest things you don’t want.

The thing is, you have to start. I truly wish I would have started on this before the class began; I think I would have had a much better time of it. And I probably wouldn’t have spent the past week itching! LOL

I’ll leave this here for you again. It’s just a copy of the 7 Day Mental Diet by Emmet Fox, a few emails to encourage you along, and a notification when I post something new. If that provides some benefit to you, welcome aboard! I want to have 200 of you with me when we start again in September. πŸ™‚

 

A wish that came true

During the MKMMA course, we had to write something called a DMP, or Definite Major Purpose: basically answering the question WHAT DO YOU WANT? Mine got sent back over and over because I wasn’t being very specific. But on the third draft (dated October 5, 2014) I wrote in there that I wanted to go to Hawaii in 2015.

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I had wanted to visit Hawaii for most of my life, because I kept hearing about how awesome it was. But I really considered it more seriously than a passing fancy when on a visit to California (where we were from) my best friend Celia told me her son Tyree (who was going to school there) would be graduating in 2015 and would I like to come too?

And I was like GREAT! AWESOME!

But I didn’t seriously feel like I was going. I didn’t keep my word a lot those days.

There are a few things you might want to know:

We drove to California from Oklahoma back in 2013 because I was so paranoid of the TSA. I had publicly and actively boycotted flying, speaking out against what was going on, and I didn’t even know if I was on some list or something. I am an abuse survivor, and the thought of some stranger touching me was like a phobia. At one point I couldn’t even read stories of TSA abuses because they would make me feel physically ill. The whole part about private jets and cruises (although those would be awesome) was my way to figure out how I could possibly go without having to deal with the TSA.

Even if I could have made myself go through a TSA line back then, I had no idea how I was going to pay to go to Hawaii. My husband doesn’t like traveling and while he might have paid for me to go, I didn’t know if it would be possible for us. At that time, my own finances weren’t doing too badly but I was later to take a series of financial missteps which put me into serious debt for the first time ever.

And although I had known Tyree since he was in second grade (his younger brother and my sons went to kindergarten together and they lived right around the corner) I didn’t actually know him all that well. So at the time the only thing sending me there was the prospect of hanging out with my friends for a week (which was pretty cool).

But doing the MKMMA forced me to decide WHAT DO I WANT, and I wanted to go to Hawaii. As it turned out, I got a TON more things done in that trip, which I’ll talk about more later. But going to Hawaii was not only something I had wanted to do for a long time, it was the first thing that they were actually able to drag out of me as a specific thing I WANTED TO DO, as opposed to what others might want, stuff for my husband/kids/etc.

Isn’t it weird how women are? LOL

So that gives some context into this photo:

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How did I get there? How did I not only go, but have a great time, absolutely zero trouble with airport security, and meet some dear friends along the way?

Well, it’s sort of like Sam’s dilemma. How do you explain nine months of effort, involving danger, fear, and victories? It would be easier for you to look at the information in the tabs above, then take the course and retrain your own subby (plus more fair to those who created it and those who took it) than for me to explain the whole thing. YouΒ  also could read what I’ve written so far. But it’s really a change inside which all this guidance, training, and mental effort produced that did it for me, and that’s something which WILL happen if you do the work.

I admit I slacked off some there at the end, but even so it’s been enough to get me through. I have a lot more specific things that I have discovered along the way that I want to do, and I am really excited because I know now that I can do them!

But really it began with the Mental Diet for me. That’s why I keep going on about it. You can save yourself some time and do it now while you’re waiting, instead of waiting until whenever they introduce it after the course starts (which won’t be for a while). But it’s up to you. πŸ™‚

Just fill out the form and follow the directions. I don’t have time to spam people, so it’s all cool.

Week 24: it really IS all in your mind

Does that sound harsh? That’s because people use the term “It’s all in your mind” to mean that it is not real somehow.

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One of my favorite movies is The Matrix. It’s the only movie that I’ve ever rented then immediately went back to the rental store to buy it.

(the lady was confused: “you can rent it again,” she said …)

But I had to buy it. Why? Because even back then it spoke to me in a way no other movie had.

If somehow you have never seen this movie, it’s based on the premise that the current world is not real, but simply a simulation of reality. Why and how this is going on in that movie, I’ll leave for you to watch for yourself.

But the idea that there is something deeper going on than what’s apparent on the surface made a whole lot of sense to me.


In Part 24, Haanel challenges the notion that what we perceive with our senses is necessarily “real”. According to him, if we solely went by our senses, then we would still believe that the world was flat and the sun moved around it.

In other words, our senses don’t tell the entire truth, and when you change your perspective (for example, observing the sun and earth from a spaceship rather than on the ground), the truth of the matter is self-evident.blinds-201173_640

For example, when energy hits our faces at one frequency, we see it as light. When it hits at a different frequency, we instead feel it as warmth. At a different frequency altogether, we can’t see or feel it, but it’s still there — if we have the instruments (which give us a new perspective) to perceive it.

This is important because a lot of people scoff at things they can’t see or immediately understand, simply because they’re unwilling to use the instruments to get that different perspective. Those tools are what this course offers in regards to the basic nature of reality.

Haanel repeats himself yet again, but only (I think) to try to use this one last chance he has to convey what he’s been trying to from Part 1: that our mind controls our reality — not in the sense of “oh if I think good thoughts then everything seems lovely” but rather —

Our environment and the innumerable circumstances and accidents of our lives already exist in the subconscious personality which attracts to itself the mental and physical material which is congenial to its nature. Thus our future being determined from our present, and if there should be apparent injustice in a feature or phase of our personal life, we must look within for the cause, try to discover the mental fact which is responsible for the outward manifestation. (emphasis mine)

What we thought before has created our present; what we think now creates our future. Literally.matrix BulletStop

It’s all in the mind.

In the movie The Matrix, a man who called himself Neo was taught how to think for himself, how to “free” his mind, and in so doing, was not only able to see the truth of his situation, but to do things which the people around him were astonished by.

The truth really did make him free.



Haanel says further:

The difficulty with which you have to contend is to realize that mind is not individual. It is omnipresent. It exists everywhere. In other words, there is no place where it is not. It is therefore, Universal.

Men have, heretofore, generally used the word “God” to indicate this Universal, creative principle; but the word “God” does not convey the right meaning. Most people understand this word to mean something outside of themselves; while exactly the contrary is the fact. It is our very life. Without it we would be dead. We would cease to exist. The minute the spirit leaves the body, we are as nothing.

Your ability to think, your ability to control your thoughts, to direct them to useful rather than destructive purposes, and your realization that your thoughts are merely one tiny part of the Universal Mind, so that what you think here can change your life and the lives of others in places and times you have yet not seen is, Haanel says, the “master key”.

That’s it. But there’s a huge difference between knowing something and understanding it.

It really is all in your mind, and how you choose to use it.

Be well.

Week 21: do you ever feel like people just don’t “get” you?

I feel like this constantly — it’s the story of my life. But I have felt this more often this week than in any other time since I was a small child, back when I was constantly told that I was too emotional, not emotional enough, too loud, too quiet, eating too much, not eating enough, and on and on and on. Red pencils, cement, ball and chain, you name it. Whatever you want to call it.

But I can feel all that stuff letting go, bit by bit. It’s not been an easy time of it.

In the webinar this week, Mark shared a lot of very cool stuff. One thing he mentioned was the idea of us (and the world around us) mostly being empty space (which I knew) and the idea of everything being in constant motion (which I also knew). But as we already talked about, there’s a difference between knowing and understanding. πŸ˜‰

Well, this week, Haanel writes about big ideas. The bigger, the better, he says, because this will make all the “petty and annoying” stuff drop away. Not only that, but thinking big, he says, is “one of the secrets of success”.

So I made sure to mark that, because I want to be successful when I grow up someday πŸ˜‰Β  And he also talks more about the Law of Attraction.

But he also says something which I found very interesting:

The predominant thought or the mental attitude is the magnet and the law is that “like attracts like”, consequently the mental attitude will invariably attract such conditions as correspond to its nature.

Each of us is a magnet. Whatever our thoughts are, we attract the same: experiences, conditions, and — interestingly enough — people.

The real battle of life is one of ideas; it is being fought out by he few against the many; on the one side is the constructive and creative thought, on the other side the destructive and negative thought; the creative thought is dominated by an ideal, the passive thought is dominated by appearances …

In the last analysis there are but these two classes; all men will have to take their place on one side or the other; they will have to go forward or go back; there is no standing still in a world where all is motion …

Wow!

The issue between the old regime and the new, the crux of the social problem, is entirely a question of conviction in the minds of the people as to the nature of the Universe. When they realize that the transcendent force of spirit or mind of the Cosmos is within each individual, it will be possible to frame laws that shall consider the liberties and rights of the many instead of the privileges of the few.

As long as the people regard the Cosmic power asΒ  a power non-human and alien to humanity, so long will it be comparatively easy for a supposed privileged class to rule by Divine right in spite of every protest of social sentiment. The real interest of democracy is therefore to exalt, emancipate and recognize the divinity of the human spirit.

Β When I read all that I felt like “this escalated quickly”!

But it all of a sudden made sense. This is why I have begun to sharply feel like I didn’t fit in (even more than usual). Before I didn’t fit into the “regular” world because the cement was on, now I’m not fitting in because the cement is coming off.