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Resistance and miracles

This week has been very good and pretty bad at the same time. I won’t go into details, but the two major things I see here are my old blueprint and resistance. With a good dose of opinions on the side.


Anyone actually successful who’s reading this: when do you stop feeling as if you’re walking in a minefield? Perhaps that’s just my old blueprint as well.


I redid my DMP. In many ways I feel like this:

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Those things we call miracles are just the inexplicable things which happen as the universe comes to your aid. I know that. But is it resistance not to want to rely on them? To know how to do what I want to do?

I feel as if I’m pushing through a jungle, alone, in a direction where there’s no path. Is that resistance? Or is that a sign I should go a different way? I don’t know, and I think the not knowing is what scares me.

Fear, unworthiness … hey, that sounds like my comfort zone! Now I know what to do. 😀

That, my friend, is a miracle. 😉

Changes

As I alluded to last week, changes are happening in my household. As much as I love my husband, the loss of quiet time at my computer during my prime working hours in the morning (he’s up before I am) is taking some getting used to. But even more than that, I’m finding changes going on inside me too.

This week, I failed to meet a Definite Major Purpose (DMP) goal. It was, as you might have guessed, a financial goal. I’m really trying to figure out why, because we manifest our own reality. The closest I’ve gotten so far is that as I mentioned my goal, in my mind I pictured what I would do, how I would juggle things, if I didn’t make it. I did notice it many times and corrected myself. But my old money blueprint of “here we go and fail again” has still worked against me in this area.

I realized I needed to circumvent my old blueprint entirely, make it irrelevant. So I removed all the financial stuff from my DMP. If I truly get what I want, money won’t be an issue.

I’ve also realized that while my Personal Pivotal Needs (PPNs) are True Health and Legacy, Autonomy is rising up as a close third. I thought it was Liberty, but one of my main goals for getting money is the freedom to do what I want. And that’s more important to me than how much I have in my bank account. How do I know that? Because even though my online businesses allow me to run them anywhere, I’m still feeling weighed down by them. I have deadlines, obligations, expectations put on me. And I’m not getting anywhere near the return I thought I would when I began them.

changesSo here I am, yet again, trying to figure out if this is just me being flighty or whether I really should sell these and move on.

Since one of them is deeply tied into my DMP, something I’ve publicly announced I’m going to do, I have to ask myself why I’m feeling this way. There are some simple things I can do to make these more profitable. I know what I need to do. I’m not doing it. Why? Is it my old self-sabotaging blueprint again? Am I afraid of whatever breakthrough I’m going to make if I persist? Or am I just clinging to a dead horse no one else wants out of fear of doing what I really should be doing?

When you’re in this place, it seems dark. It seems overwhelming. But we know what that means. The real trick is knowing which way to go, what changes to make. But like that seed in the dark, we are given a major clue. I just need to follow it.

Week 18: putting your heart into it

Although I’ve gotten a lot done, this past week has felt very difficult.sun-622740_640

Yesterday was the anniversary of my father’s death, and even though he died a long time ago, for some reason this week has been emotional for me.

I think it’s the collision of a lot of things I alluded to last week: just seeing how much negativity I’ve manifested and attracted in this 53 year life of mine, and realizing that it’s going to be more of a process of tearing down an old building and rebuilding it than just chipping off a little cement. At times I feel as if I need to get an earth mover.

But as always, Haanel has an answer for this situation:

In order to grow we must obtain what is essential for our growth, but as we are at all times a complete thought entity, this completeness makes it possible for us to receive only as we give; growth is therefore conditioned on reciprocal action and we find that on the mental plane like attracts like …

.. Affluence within is found to be the secret of attraction for affluence without … it if for this reason that he who has his heart in his work is certain to meet with unbounded success. He will give and continually give; and the more he gives, the more he will receive.

I found this very encouraging, because I realized that I haven’t had my heart in my work for a while, and of course that sort of thing always comes back to bite us, as like attracts like. But I can change things simply by putting my heart into what I choose to do and letting like attract like. I don’t have to force things to happen, good or bad; they just do.

Week 16: converting difficulties into blessings

I have been in the New Orleans area this past week, and I have learned SO much. The one thing which amazed me the most is how many people I met who were saying things like, “I decided I need to follow my own inner voice.” Wow!!


This week, we’ve been asked to look for kindness, both in ourselves and in those around us.

The preface to Part 16 of the Master Keys says:

… through an understanding and conscious operation of spiritual laws, we can convert every seeming difficulty into a blessing.

Isn’t that what kindness is all about?

Here is what I mean. If you pay for something you bought, that’s not particularly kind in and of itself. That is simply a transaction. But if you buy it to help someone else, or pay for someone who comes up short at the register, then it becomes a kindness. That person you helped had a seeming difficulty, which you turned into a blessing.


Haanel again hammers at the idea that thought is the cause. The only cause. If we want something, anything else, these things are simply effects, and we need to develop the appropriate thought patterns to produce that effect. Our time is best spent in developing those thought patterns (aka: the silence/the sit), because once you think about something in a certain way, the outward world MUST change to correspond to that.


So: kindness. Converting difficulties to blessings. Thought being the cause. How do these things fit together?

Let me give you an example: you go into your bathroom, and there’s a towel on the floor. You can have several thoughts about this, but here’s two that everyone can relate to —

  • oh, look, the towel’s on the floor. Let me pick it up.
  • oh, look, the towel’s on the floor. I’ll get it later.

Which thought leads to the effect of a clean bathroom?

Well, you might think, “Who cares if a towel is on the floor?” That has an effect too, and if you’re asking that, I bet there is more than a towel on your bathroom floor. Am I right? 😉

If you live with others, you might have angry thoughts and blame them for that towel being there. That leads to other effects. Negative thoughts charged with angry feelings … I hope you see where I’m going with this. You wonder why you feel so bad all the time.

Or you can be kind and pick up the towel, giving yourself a feeling of accomplishment. Kind to the others in your home. Kind to yourself.

It’s the same seeming difficulty: a towel lying on the floor. Totally different thoughts. Completely different effects.


Haanel talks more about constructive and destructive thoughts, and how the thoughts themselves are not particularly good or bad. What matters are the thoughts we entertain, dwell on, and manifest in our lives. This is why the Mental Diet is so important, and why we need to be kind to ourselves while using it. It’s too easy to get into this vicious circle of I had this negative thought and therefore I’m bad (another negative thought), and so on.

I love love love this quote from Part 15:

We do not have to laboriously shovel the darkness out; all that is necessary is to turn on the light.

light-bulbs-1125016_640Focus on what you want, your ideal, and on what you want to become, and voila! the light is on. It was dark, which seemed like a difficulty, but you turned it into a blessing, not only for yourself but also for those around you.

 

Week 2: monster attack!

Okay, this post is not really about the Master Keys. But then it is. Because if it hadn’t been for this course and the support of the friends I made here I would not have gotten through this week:

  • husband sick (with multiple specialist visits)
  • son sick
  • anniversary of a not-good thing
  • trying to promote my upcoming novel
  • doing Small Product Lab (great idea, bad timing — but I finished!)
  • all the things one needs to do to run a business
  • the work of being a guide for this (which actually is pretty minor)
  • and so on

I must admit I had a melt-down on Tuesday. My old blueprint ATTACKED! But I kept my mind focused on the positives, let myself feel the stuff that needed to feel, and was able to get everything done.

So I’m very happy.

(If you’re curious about what I made in the Small Product Lab, it’s here)

The mental game

Bradley_Wiggins_Mark_Cavendish_-_2012_Tour_de_FranceI love the Tour de France, and today was the last day in the 21 day bike race. It’s a grueling race (it really seems like the Iron Man of professional cycling) and there was a lot of nostalgia and reminiscing about the Tour in the TV coverage. One thing that was mentioned over and over was that more than physical toughness (although you better have that to even try the race) what you needed to even finish was mental toughness.

Each time there was a crash, it was because someone let their mind drift, got careless, and numerous people would go down at 30, 35 mph, losing skin, breaking bones, and so on. It’s really quite astonishing and frightening when you think of it.

Then there were the people who got so sick they had to drop out. Why did some get sick and others didn’t? I don’t know. Could it have been what they were telling themselves? Were they just not ready to receive a prize, or even a finish in the most prestigious race ever?

I honestly don’t have the answers to any of this. I don’t know any of these men. I’m not even an athlete. But I know for myself, when I’m not focused on what I want, I’m focused on what I don’t want. It’s very easy for me to drift back into my old mental habits if I’m not watching myself. I have to constantly bring myself back to what I want, substitute what I do want for the old “what I don’t want” thinking.

It’s not very easy, but it gets easier the more you do it. I use the 7 day mental diet all the time, along with the rest of the tools that come with the Master Key Experience, so that I can have some chance at getting what I want instead of the other stuff. 😉

What do you think? Does the mental game matter at all?

You get what you ask for

I have so much to write about I don’t even know where to start. But I feel as if I have had some insights over the past week or two that I’d like to share with you.

Since I’ve taken this course, more and more I’ve been faced with evidence that what happens to us isn’t just random fate, but a direct result of what we’ve asked for.

We manifest ALL the time, both good and bad. We can’t help it. We’re manifested in the image (the IMAGE!) of the Infinite, and we have the same ability to create our reality.

Now I know a lot of people have problems with that. I would have had a huge problem with that a year or two ago, being a survivor of a whole lot of bad stuff that you don’t really even want to know about.

Putting aside the inevitable questions about things which happen to children and other beings who have no agency (which I feel is just avoiding the real point), if you look back at your life, you can often see what I’m talking about.

For example: I was in Hawaii (known for its bugs) for three weeks. I think I got one or two bug bites. I come home to Oklahoma (known for its bugs), and for over a week, I didn’t get a single bug bite. I sell this bug lotion and I use it regularly, and I like it.

So I was reading this discussion on Facebook by some friends of mine who were talking about how bad the bugs were, and (here comes the ego!) I was feeling upset that none of them bought any of my bug stuff, so I said, “I use my bug lotion and haven’t gotten any bug bites.” Which was a lie, and when I wrote it, I thought of my two bug bites quite clearly.

Guess what happened the next time I went outside. Tons of horrible bug bites!

I was talking with Mark J over in Kauai one day and he thought I needed to work on visualizing. I told him, that’s not my problem. My problem is that I visualize too well!

Over the 50 some years of crap I’ve had to deal with, I learned to visualize negativity SO well that it’s really no wonder that I’ve had the struggles I’ve had.

But then he said, well then you need to work on your mental diet.

I totally agree with that, because it’s a daily battle, even after the 8 or 9 months I’ve been working on this. It takes persistence. It takes courage.

But it gets easier as time goes on. It really does.

My point is that because you DO get what you ask for (what you visualize, which is the main way you tell your subby what you want) you MUST get control of your mind!

Right now, what are you thinking? What are you visualizing? Is it positive and enthusiastic, full of what you want for your life? Or is it hateful and angry, full of anxiety and fear, guilt and shame, focused on things you don’t want?

You can either control your mind (and learn to get what you do want), or your out of control thoughts will continue to manifest things you don’t want.

The thing is, you have to start. I truly wish I would have started on this before the class began; I think I would have had a much better time of it. And I probably wouldn’t have spent the past week itching! LOL

I’ll leave this here for you again. It’s just a copy of the 7 Day Mental Diet by Emmet Fox, a few emails to encourage you along, and a notification when I post something new. If that provides some benefit to you, welcome aboard! I want to have 200 of you with me when we start again in September. 🙂

 

A wish that came true

During the MKMMA course, we had to write something called a DMP, or Definite Major Purpose: basically answering the question WHAT DO YOU WANT? Mine got sent back over and over because I wasn’t being very specific. But on the third draft (dated October 5, 2014) I wrote in there that I wanted to go to Hawaii in 2015.

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I had wanted to visit Hawaii for most of my life, because I kept hearing about how awesome it was. But I really considered it more seriously than a passing fancy when on a visit to California (where we were from) my best friend Celia told me her son Tyree (who was going to school there) would be graduating in 2015 and would I like to come too?

And I was like GREAT! AWESOME!

But I didn’t seriously feel like I was going. I didn’t keep my word a lot those days.

There are a few things you might want to know:

We drove to California from Oklahoma back in 2013 because I was so paranoid of the TSA. I had publicly and actively boycotted flying, speaking out against what was going on, and I didn’t even know if I was on some list or something. I am an abuse survivor, and the thought of some stranger touching me was like a phobia. At one point I couldn’t even read stories of TSA abuses because they would make me feel physically ill. The whole part about private jets and cruises (although those would be awesome) was my way to figure out how I could possibly go without having to deal with the TSA.

Even if I could have made myself go through a TSA line back then, I had no idea how I was going to pay to go to Hawaii. My husband doesn’t like traveling and while he might have paid for me to go, I didn’t know if it would be possible for us. At that time, my own finances weren’t doing too badly but I was later to take a series of financial missteps which put me into serious debt for the first time ever.

And although I had known Tyree since he was in second grade (his younger brother and my sons went to kindergarten together and they lived right around the corner) I didn’t actually know him all that well. So at the time the only thing sending me there was the prospect of hanging out with my friends for a week (which was pretty cool).

But doing the MKMMA forced me to decide WHAT DO I WANT, and I wanted to go to Hawaii. As it turned out, I got a TON more things done in that trip, which I’ll talk about more later. But going to Hawaii was not only something I had wanted to do for a long time, it was the first thing that they were actually able to drag out of me as a specific thing I WANTED TO DO, as opposed to what others might want, stuff for my husband/kids/etc.

Isn’t it weird how women are? LOL

So that gives some context into this photo:

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How did I get there? How did I not only go, but have a great time, absolutely zero trouble with airport security, and meet some dear friends along the way?

Well, it’s sort of like Sam’s dilemma. How do you explain nine months of effort, involving danger, fear, and victories? It would be easier for you to look at the information in the tabs above, then take the course and retrain your own subby (plus more fair to those who created it and those who took it) than for me to explain the whole thing. You  also could read what I’ve written so far. But it’s really a change inside which all this guidance, training, and mental effort produced that did it for me, and that’s something which WILL happen if you do the work.

I admit I slacked off some there at the end, but even so it’s been enough to get me through. I have a lot more specific things that I have discovered along the way that I want to do, and I am really excited because I know now that I can do them!

But really it began with the Mental Diet for me. That’s why I keep going on about it. You can save yourself some time and do it now while you’re waiting, instead of waiting until whenever they introduce it after the course starts (which won’t be for a while). But it’s up to you. 🙂

Just fill out the form and follow the directions. I don’t have time to spam people, so it’s all cool.

Week 22: mind over matter

I really enjoyed this week’s lesson, but the week seems to be going way too fast! It’s hard to believe it’s Thursday evening already.

This week, Haanel talked about our physical health, and how the mind affects the body. Literally “mind over matter”.

Unfortunately, that term has the connotation of being something either supernatural or something to do with will power.

Now, Haanel REALLY does not like the term “will power” — he went on a rant about it a couple of weeks ago, which I didn’t mention then but I’ll quote him here:

Every time you think you start a train of causation which will create a condition in strict accordance with the quality of the thought which originated it. Thought which is in harmony with the Universal Mind will result in corresponding conditions. Thought which is destructive or discordant will produce corresponding results. You may use thought constructively or destructively, but the immutable law will not allow you to plant a thought of once kind and reap the fruit of another. You are free to use this marvelous creative power as you will, but you must take the consequences.

This is the danger from what is called Will Power. There are those who seem to think that by force of will they can coerce this law; that they can sow seed of one kind and by “Will Power” make it bear fruit of another, but the fundamental principle of creative power is in the Universal, and therefore the idea of forcing a compliance with our wishes by the power of the individual will is an inverted conception which may appear to succeed for a while but is eventually doomed to failure – because it antagonizes the very power which it is seeking to use.

It is the individual attempting to coerce the Universal, the finite in conflict with the Infinite.

Or as the saying goes, “your arms are too short to box with God” 😉

But the term “mind over matter” does have some merit, because your mind really can influence your body. Haanel gives several examples: you hear something funny and your whole body shakes with laughter; you see something sad and you cry; you read something horrible and become angry, your face turning red as the blood flows to your cheeks. According to Haanel, our minds can not only affect our bodies for a short period of time like laughing, but can cause real damage or good to our bodies.

I’m reminded of people who “died of fright” or got terrible news and had a heart attack and died. Now this could be coincidence, or it could be something “real”.

Both seeing this as a former physician and from personal experience, I can tell you that your mind can have a big impact on your body. Not in the “will power” way, but as in holding particular thoughts for long periods of time. People who should have died and are fine, or who should not have died who predicted the day they ended up dying (in one case, I had a patient who seemed fairly well who died exactly one year after her husband did, and she told me that’s when she wanted to go — in another, a woman 20 years ago who had “terminal” brain cancer yet went into complete remission and as far as I know is fine to this day).

And I was labeled as “100% disabled” 15 years ago: I had severe psychiatric problems, fibromyalgia, and arthritis — and one day long ago I decided that my goal in life (my DMP, if you will) was to get well. Every day I thought about this: I want to get well. And other than some lingering memory issues due to the psychiatric problem and a bit of creakiness in the joints, I’m pretty much there.

So I found this statement interesting:

… when perfect images are placed before the subjective, the creative energies will build a perfect body.

In other words, think of what you want, and you’ll get what you want!

Now, this seems worth doing. I’m 52 and have had three children, and my body wouldn’t be considered “perfect” by any means. But this would be a great experiment!

Actually, I began this experiment several months ago, back in week 9, when Haanel said:

It used to be said that man is completely built over every seven years, but some scientists now declare that we build ourselves over entirely every eleven months; so we are really only eleven moths old. If we build the defects back in to our bodies year after year, we nave no one to blame but ourselves.

Wow! That statement hit me like a ton of bricks the first time I read it.

So far all I’ve done for sure is break through a weight loss plateau which had plagued me for the past 2 years, but I have some other changes I’d like to build in as well, if I can, not by “will power”, but by getting my subconscious mind to do it for me. I’ll keep you posted. 😉

 

Week 13: knowledge vs certainty (part 2)

I feel as though I sort of left yesterday’s post unfinished, now that I think about it more, and while I was doing my readings I kept mentally adding enough edits that it seemed best to just write a second part and be done with it. 😉

Today I’ve been thinking about how our current situations came to be, whether good or bad, prosperous or impoverished, in turmoil or at peace. And one thing which jumped out at me was that we didn’t have to do exercises or say affirmations or make a blueprint or exert any sort of effort in order to get where we are now.

Or did we? What goes running through your brain all day? I submit that those are your affirmations. What do you read about, watch, and talk about? What do you focus on? Those are your exercises. What are you certain of, in times of either stress or celebration? That is your blueprint.

The problem is that we have had this blueprint put on us since we were born by other people: parents, teachers, the TV, movies, songs, the news, and so on. These tell you who you are, what you should be, what you deserve, how much money it’s okay to have, where you can go, what you can do, what you can believe, how you can act, when/where/how it’s okay to eat/have sex/take care of your children, what you should look like — every single inch of your life has been dictated to you by someone else, programmed and conditioned to the point where most people don’t even know who they are anymore.

That is what this course is about: finding out who you are and creating a blueprint that fits you, not one that was put on you by others, who had theirs put on them by others, who had theirs put on them by others, and so on.

And this blueprint of yours (and mine) is so strong that it takes no effort on your part to create huge effects. Just look around you right now — you made what you see! While you might not have physically made it, you (like the architect of the battleship I talked about earlier), set events in motion which brought it to wherever you are right now, either by you physically moving to it (if, for example, you’re sitting in a park or a restaurant right now), or you bought it and took it home. The way you feel when you look at what you’re seeing, the way you view your surroundings and the people around you, everything in your life is made up of what you have been certain of.

Here’s what I see as the problem with the usual way people go about “changing their life”: they make a resolution, or set a goal, and go through all this mental effort to force themselves to do something, but since every effect (even the thing they want to change, say, being overweight, or smoking) has a definite cause, working to change the effect without changing the cause is doomed to fail. They haven’t even done a thing to change the blueprint which says “oh what a big boy Johnny is!” or “smoking makes you cool” or whatever the blueprint is, that jolt of pleasure you get for doing what you do which you know you shouldn’t.

And there’s something else which is even more important, that I have known about for many weeks, but just now really became certain of today:

Mental effort defeats itself — exactly the opposite of physical effort. A relaxed, calm state of mind is the only doorway to progress mentally. Relaxation of thought is the only access to Infinite Intelligence.

This is otherwise known as the Law of Relaxation, and has been stuck up on my wall since … I don’t know, week 3 or so? It makes me laugh to think of how it has been there the whole time.

So everyone all over the world is making “resolutions” right now: using the wrong tools (mental effort) to change effects (not causes), then after a few months, failing, repeatedly training their subby to fail, then next year either giving up (because they are certain they aren’t good enough) or vowing to do even more of this next year, because they are certain that this will work. I mean, that’s what everyone else does!

Not only that, but they are doing something else which Haanel warns against, and which was my problem the other day:

Are we to inform the Omniscient as to the proper channel to be used to materialize our demand? Can the finite advise the Infinite? This is the cause of failure …

As Albert Einstein said, insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

So what is the answer?

The main thing is to create a new blueprint which is stronger and better than the old one ever was, which it will be because it will be in alignment with who you really are. Once this new blueprint is made, doing what you want and getting what you want will be as easy and effortless as doing and getting what you have at present.

Creating and associating pleasure from doing the things which correspond with the life you want (and conversely, pain from doing the things you don’t want) is a big step, and one thing which we’ve learned how to do this week. But of course, Haanel once again emphasizes that “we must put our knowledge into practice” — just as an athlete will never become stronger by reading about lifting weights or running or whatever he or she wants to do, we aren’t going to change our blueprints by reading about how to do it. Not gonna happen.

But must use the right tools. Using woodworking tools to mix concrete, or concrete tools to work with wood, results in destroyed tools and ruined materials both. So how can we make sure we’re going to succeed?

Haanel writes:

We can best conserve our interests by recognizing the Infinite Power and Infinite Wisdom of the Universal Mind, and in this way become a channel whereby the Infinite can bring about the realization of our desire.

In other words, prioritize: put those 2000 connections of your conscious mind to work on figuring out what you want out of life. Exactly what, down to the smallest detail. Let the 4 billion connections of your subby and the infinite power of the Universal Mind work on the how. Spending your 2000 connections worrying about how this is all going to happen just manifests anxiety and fear when you can’t get it to work. This week, I learned this the hard way.

Use the right tools for the job and it becomes much easier. 🙂